How to Ask What You Want

There is a special knowledge about how to request and get what we want or need. Here are five things that I often to do asking for what I want or what I need, including: 

1. Ask as if we will get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place where we have already given. Ask as if we will get the answer of Yes. 
2. Assume that we can. Don’t start with the presumption that we cannot obtain. 
3. Ask to someone who capable. Find people who can and have something we need. 
4. Be clear and specific. Unclear request give unclear results. Our demand must be specific. 
5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important principles of success is perseverance, do not give up. 

Putting in our mind, there will be a lot of rejection along the way, and the key is “do not give up”. When someone still does not answer anything, we must continue to ask.

Just Tell the Truth

Often people use the excusing that they did not want to hurt other people feeling. That is a falsehood. If you consider thinking like that, actually happen is that we protect ourself and our own sense from our own feeling. We avoid about our feeling when they annoys us . This is a dastardly way out and only impedes the actual situation. Hide the reality is always create a boomerang effect. The longer we hide it, the greater loss we made for ourself and other people who involved.

Understand Your Ego

Within us there are three different ego and work together to shape our unique personality. We have the ego such as an old person ego, an adult ego and coltish ego. They will behave just like their parent, adult person and children behavior in a real life.

Condition as an adult is our rational side. They collect data and make logical decisions that don’t based on emotions. This is our planning schedule, calculating balance of our check books and so on. Conditions of an old people ego told us to lace our shoes, eat vegetables occasionally, due to meet our target and so on. This is our internal critic, the side that assess when we are not living according to the standard, which affirm, appreciate, and recognize us have worked well. Ego coltish will do what the children do include to whine, ask for attention, to be embraced, and happy when the desire is fulfilled.

Faster to Tell The Truth

Most of us would not actually tell the truth because this was not a good idea. We fear to the result will not make people comfortable and sometimes it wound their feeling or even making them angry. In fact, when we do not tell the truth, and other people do not tell the truth either, we cannot handle the problem based on reality.

We all heard "the truth will make you free." And that is true. Truth gives us a freedom to handle the actual situation, not the circumstances that we imagine, expect, or manipulate the lie. The truth also allows our energy. Energy is required to withhold the truth, keep secret, or continue to pretend.

Successful Person Tend to Act

Most of successful people I know do not like to make an over plan and discuss to another. They cannot wait to act. They want to start. They want to start a game.

Planning is important, but we have to adjust them with the actual situation. Some people spend their whole life waiting for the coming of a perfect time to start something. In this world it will rarely to get the right time. The most essential is to start immediately. Follow the game. Enter the field and enjoy the game. As we start to do something, we will begin to get feedback that will help us to make improvement we need to get success. Once we act, we will begin to learn everything with higher speed.

Be Simple

We must remember that we create the life that we’ve been chosen, as the result of our past thought and action. We are all responsible for our thoughts and feelings now. We are all responsible for what we want to say and to do. We are all also responsible for what we have in mind. We can control every action. To be more successful, what we need to do now is an action using the pathway that can realize our goals.

Act Now

The world does not pay you for your knowledge, the world pay for your actions. There is an eternal adage about the success, "world will reward for each action tried." However, and as any real principles say, there are facts that lots of people are trapped in analysis and planning when they truly need is an action.

When you act, you trigger a variety of things that will eventually bring you to achieve your success. You will tell people around you that you are mean business. People will start to realize and pay attention. People with the same idea will be with you. You begin to learn any different things from your experience that is not always can be learned from listening to other people or reading books. Good things start flowing toward as you act.

Simple Doesn't Mean Easy

Although it is looked so simple, each principle is not easy to be applied. It requires extra awareness, high discipline, and willingness to try and bear the risk. We must ready to give attention on what we will do and produce. We must ask for feedback to ourselves and people around us. Just don’t be afraid to ask. Most people are afraid to ask for feedback about their performance because they fear on what they will hear. Knowing the truth is better than not at all.

Fulfill Your Cycle

Have you heard the term of “complete cycle”? The steps which are described as decide, plan, start, continue, complete and fulfill – important to create our success in every occasion, to obtain the results we want and to finish each achievement. One step that often forgotten is to fulfill the cycle, it often represent the field of our life when we are not clear or when we have emotional and psychological barriers. Something are simply not complete due to the absences of a system, knowledge, or enough experience for the task, then accumulates because of bad working habit. One way to handle this dilemma is to perform my four D therapy includes: do it, delegate it, delay it, and dump it.

Visualizes Your Success

Spend a few hours each day to visualize in the circumstance that you have reached your goal. This is one of the most important things you can make to realize your own dream. I have tried to do so, and I really feel the advantages. One hour of visualization will be equal to seven hour of physical effort. In spite of too much, this term asserts one important thing - visualization is one effective instrument that has placed in my success tool box.

If you difficult to see your own goals, you should consider trying tips of mine. Use pictures, illustrations and symbols to make your conscious and subconscious mind focuses on your goals. Once you've created that picture, put them in a binder where you will notice them every day. Or you can make announcements board or wall where you will see it every day.

Make a Small Step to Change

When we try to improve our skills, change behaviors, or improve our families or business, start with small steps that can be restrained and will give us great opportunities for long-term success. Doing too much too quickly not only makes us overwhelmed, it also can make us fail, and strengthens our belief that success is difficult or even impossible. When we start with small steps then we can easily possess, it will toughen the confidence that we can easily improve ourselves.

Power of Visualization

Visualization or action to create a spectacular and clearly future imagination in our mind may be the most successful means of less we take advantage of. Visualization will accelerate the achievement our success in three effective ways. Visualization activates the creative power of our subconscious. Visualization focuses our brain by programming our mind sees the existence of available resources but have not exploited yet. Visualization gives us a sticking factor, and will attract a lot of people, resources, and opportunities that we need to achieve our purpose.

Hire a Trainer

From all things that success people do to accelerate their journey through the route of success, the number one thing is to take a part in training programs. A coach will help us refine our vision and goals, support through fear and make us to keep focus, fight with our unconscious behavior and our strange patterns. A training program will also give their best to help us living according to our values, show how to obtain more revenue with less work, and make us stay focused on our core intelligences.

Will never have an athlete can participate in Olympic game without led by a world class trainer. Likewise we cannot expect a team to enter the professional soccer competition without a complete coach. So do when we enter the business and personal world, involving a coach who has been successful will help us go through the same way or even more powerful.

Act As If

One of the strategies to achieve a great success is to act as if we already in the position we want. It means, we think like, talk like, act like, and feel like people who have reached the goal. Act as if we already in the position we want commands to send a strong message to our subconscious mind so that we will find a lot of creative ways to reach our goal. That thing like puts our brain to see anything that will help us to be success, and also sending a strong message to the universe that our end goal is something that truly we want.